Lately I have been trying to wrap my head around the games that people play in social situations. The "game" if you will. It seems to me that each person has a number of scripts that they have to choose from in every circumstance. All of us are so in danger of getting wrapped up with choosing the appropriate script according to how we are going to make everyone feel around us. Now this may sound harsh, but I'm starting to not care what people think. Does that sound bad? We often hear those words in the form of a proclamation that we are standing up for what we are doing because we know it's right, contrary to whatever inverse pressure we feel. This situation is not what I'm getting at here. I'm really not interested in how people perceive each action that I take. Truly, I'm only concerned with one opinion, that of my savior Jesus.
We waste so much energy in coming up with the best action we can take, trying to keep everyone happy. There are countless hours spent worrying whether or not something will be taken the right way(When more often than not, most people will just lie and adjust what our "intention" was according to how someone reacts). All this problem solving energy could be spent figuring out how to serve someone best.
BTW there is a big difference between serving someone and trying to avoid stepping on thier toes. You serve someone by loving them and being patient, but you are crippling someone when you are too afraid to be real around them. If everyone where real, there would be far less social issues because people would no longer have to play the guessing game. (see more games) STOP ACTING!!! STOP TIP TOEING!!!
Sometimes people need there toes stepped on so they look down and see where they are going.
